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so, was out on the water yesterday afternoon fishing, there's boats around. im focused on the fish busting in the mat in front of me until I hear a guy yelling "sit down! (and some other BS)" I look up to see a man, woman and what looked like a small boy in a bass boat fishing. I go back to fishing, next I hear the woman yelling something or other at the child, this went on for like an hour. I thought to myself "that's not quality time with the family and the child isn't having a whole lot of fun."
at one point I actually considered going over to ask if they needed help but decided against it. I guess m point is, if youre going to take a child fishing atleast let them participate and have some fun, don't be dicks!

my oldest son is now 23, he was less than 2mos old the first time I took him out. I didn't make it fun for him when he was little(I was a dick) and through his teen years he didn't fish much with me. thankfully he's come back around and now chooses to go with me. I wont make the same mistake with my 18mos old.

just a friendly reminder, take a kid fishing................don't be a dick :)
 
I'll fess up. This very well could have been me and my wife and daughter yesterday. I have a 2 year old daughter that we try to take fishing that is an absolute handful. I apologize if it was. This is not an indication of our family life. We are young parents trying to figure out how to harness my daughters free spirit and independence. Sounds crazy for a two year old but its the truth. We were both frustrated yesterday and probably didn't handle the situation as well as we could have after dealing with it for 2 or 3 hours.
 
And I'll add that dick may be a harsh word if it was me. Not like we were cussing or anything vulgar. Still embarassing none the less but food for thought.
 
Learn to have better patience and go to take them fishing, not you go fishing and take them with you. I have a 15 year old and 7 year old boys that I assure you are as hyper as they come, but if you can put a rod in their hand and let them catch a fish or two they will focus that energy on catching more. Anyone that knows me knows my oldest son Chase and the kid is obsessed with fishing and is with me 75% of the time I go. Don't get me wrong I have had some frustrating days fishing with them, especially when they are on the boat together, that can turn into a real freak show, when the little one grows bored he wreaks havoc on the boat. lol But try to take your kid fishing and focus on letting her catch a couple fish and leave your rods down for a trip or two. You will create a fishing partner for life.
 
its a big a lake, who knows how many families were on the water.

I would say embrace/encourage your daughter's free spirit, its likely she's intelligent and your encouragement will help her grow and help her self esteem during her formative years.
 
She is very intelligent. Started walking at 8 months. My issue is she wants to do everything herself. And I do mean everything. Including flailing the hook around because she wants to cast. We do practice in the yard quite often with no hook. However it is hard to get a two year old to understand there are some things Mom and Dad still have to do. When they are little hellions and refuse that help it gets really,really frustrating. No excuse but again food for thought. And I am as guilty as they come as trying to get a little fishing in when we go. Good suggestion to put the rods down. Matter of fact,next time I'll leave them at home when they go.
 
like I said, I took my son out from a VERY young age. he used to play in the bottom of the boat with his toys while I fished. and would fish from time to time. of course I always let him reel in any fish I hooked. as early as he could comprehend the concept(like 2, maybe younger) I gave him his own little rod and usually a crankbait with HOOKS! the first time I gave it to him I told him, the hooks are sharp. he poked his finger on one and said "owwww, sharp." he never hooked himself, he got me once I think but not bad. my fishing buddies always worried, and I assured them he knows it hurts and doesn't like it, he avoids it and is careful. it was great, he would stand on the deck beside me and chunk and wind, until he got bored. it as cool. my point being, they are more capable, even at young ages than we give them credit for.
 
I started taking my daughter fishing when she was about three. She got a catfish on the first cast-about 8 inches long. She is now 42 years old and still fishes with her husband and 15 year old son! When she was 8 she was baiting her mothers hook :)
 
derek81 - 10/25/2016 1:27 PMLearn to have better patience and go to take them fishing, not you go fishing and take them with you. I have a 15 year old and 7 year old boys that I assure you are as hyper as they come, but if you can put a rod in their hand and let them catch a fish or two they will focus that energy on catching more. Anyone that knows me knows my oldest son Chase and the kid is obsessed with fishing and is with me 75% of the time I go. Don't get me wrong I have had some frustrating days fishing with them, especially when they are on the boat together, that can turn into a real freak show, when the little one grows bored he wreaks havoc on the boat. lol But try to take your kid fishing and focus on letting her catch a couple fish and leave your rods down for a trip or two. You will create a fishing partner for life.
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Those are Jmax's kids. You just raise them. :)
 
fishinvol - 10/25/2016 3:04 PM

derek81 - 10/25/2016 1:27 PMLearn to have better patience and go to take them fishing, not you go fishing and take them with you. I have a 15 year old and 7 year old boys that I assure you are as hyper as they come, but if you can put a rod in their hand and let them catch a fish or two they will focus that energy on catching more. Anyone that knows me knows my oldest son Chase and the kid is obsessed with fishing and is with me 75% of the time I go. Don't get me wrong I have had some frustrating days fishing with them, especially when they are on the boat together, that can turn into a real freak show, when the little one grows bored he wreaks havoc on the boat. lol But try to take your kid fishing and focus on letting her catch a couple fish and leave your rods down for a trip or two. You will create a fishing partner for life.
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Those are Jmax's kids. You just raise them. :)
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Nobody asked you....don't you have a dock to fall off of? emoApplause
 
The first time I took my daughter fishing from the boat was a memorable trip. I was putting a worm on her hook and looked a way from her for only a couple of seconds. Then I heard a big splash. She's in the water and it's cold. I grab her by the back of her life jacket and put her in the boat and we head home. She tells my wife that she fell in and I just left her. She thought I should have jumper in too.
After I get her warmed up I ask what happened and she said she saw a leaf floating on the water and when she tried to reach it she fell in.
I asked her if I took her again would she promise to stay in the boat? She grinned and said no. I respect the honesty, but we have only been fishing from the dock since then.
 
fishinvol - 10/25/2016 3:46 PM

I've made it a couple weeks without falling. I'm due !
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I watched him at the ramp this morning with camera in hand just in case...??

Btw... I have two daughters that love to fish... when they were little it was a struggle for sure but good, bad or whatever I tried to put my fishing success behind just having fun with the the kids. They grow up so freakin fast. One out of college and one a senior in college.... who happens to be on the Ole Miss fishing team. Didn't learn anything from me though. I suck at fishing.

Greg
 
Took my 8 year old daughter with me on Sunday Crappie fishing, teaching her to shoot docks, she took to it surprisingly well, and it held her interest more so than other methods of fishing, she likes to be challenged but doesn't want to be helped. she eventually got bored and played games on her ipod. But when we got home she asked me if we could practice dock shooting out in the Yard ! I was so happy. It takes alot of patience but I just about count on not getting to fish seriously when shes in the boat with me, but I do try to keep her engaged in the process by having her do things like steer the boat when we're trolling or read back the the trolling speed to me, I show her fish and structure on the Fish finder. It is important to keep their minds occupied to hold their interest.
 
that's awesome!!! you just have to engage them and let them do for themselves. its hard as parents to let go and trust them even at young ages but again they are more capable than we know. essentially we(parents) are limiting their growth/learning by not letting them do it themselves.
 
Interesting thread and it applies to a lot of things in life that are not fishing - particularly kid's sports.
 

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